Junior Fair BBQ again a big success Beulah B James Senior Profile: Josie Myers Lady Indians place second at Ohio Classic in Hillsboro MVCA dominates Greyhounds in 45-0 triumph For Lady Devils, SHAC streak goes to 55 matches 9/11: Sixteen years later Gertrude Gibson Defender Bowl coming Sept. 16 Joyce A Walker Virginia R Young Senior Profile: Abby Campton West Union hosts 2017 Dragon Run New gridiron history begins for Peebles Trout, fire, and blueberry fields forever Senior Profile: Baylee Justice Lady Devils win SHAC thriller at Eastern Brown From Blue Creek to the Beaneaters Tough loss for Greyhounds in season opener Turning tragedy into hope What we learn from failure Absolutely had to get the wrinkles out Frances S Kidder Leo Trotter 41st Bentonville Festival set to begin Sept. 8 Winchester celebrates its history during three-day street fair Cruisefest returning to streets of Peebles Blue Creek- a community in transition honors its history and heritage Cuteness Galore – Winchester Homecoming Festival Baby Show Ronnie L Day Cast your vote for the Adams County Fairgrounds Nelson E Atkinson Ryan L Colvin Richard Tackett William L Tadlock Penny Pollard Wendell Beasley West Union soccer drops pair at Mason County Lady Indians go down in straight sets Senior Profile: Michael Gill Senior Profile: Katie Sandlin Royals dominate in big win over North Adams Dragons continue County Cup domination Archaeology Day returns to Serpent Mound Hourglass Quilt Square is back up again Manchester family hosts International Guests History, farming, and family- the bedrock of Cherry Fork’s community Bus drivers, emergency responders prepare for coming school year Working up a real good sweat What’s behind the motive? Rondal R Bailey Jr Thelma J Yates She’s all grown up now Scott A Yeager Soccer talent on display at 2017 SHAC preview Baseball community mourns the loss of Gene Bennett Winchester Homecoming Festival is Aug 25-27 Eleanor P Tumbleson Felicity man killed in Ohio River boating accident WUHS golfers take Portsmouth Invitational It was pretty cold that day Volleyball kicks off with SHAC Preview Night Young awarded Women’s Western Golf Foundation Scholarship One Mistake Senator Portman visits GE Test Facility in Peebles Adams County school districts facing some major challenges for the coming year Family, friends, and roots: the ties that bind residents of one Adams County village What is your strength? Just the chance to take a look back Ronnie L Wolford Dale J Marshall Herbert Purvis Great American Solar Eclipse coming Aug. 21 BREAKING NEWS: West Union wins fifth consecutive County Cup Wallace B Boden John L Fletcher Lady Indians golfers learning the links North Adams, West Union golfers open 2017 seasons This Labor Day, ‘Drive Sober or Get Pulled Over’ Blanton announces candicacy for Court of Appeals Local student attends Congress of Future Medical Leaders MHS welcomes new principal Made in America When it feels like you’re spinning plates Bonfires and “building” a farm Lady Devils looking to take that next step 50 years of Bengal memories Ag Society delivers donation to Dragonfly Foundation Young Memorial Scholarship awarded to a pair of local seniors ‘Musical passion is in his blood’ Naylor named NAHS Principal Boldman retiring after 17 years as Homeless Shelter director Manchester concludes another River Days celebration Drug Treatment vs. Prison James R Brown Bobby Lawler Jr Adams County man charged with killing estranged girlfriend Lexie N Hopkins Volleyball, soccer previews coming this weekend Michael A Cheek

What is your strength?

By Denae Jones – 

My boys are always telling me to flex my biceps.  I’m pretty sure it’s just so they can laugh at the fact that I can flex my arm as hard as I can and there is basically no difference.  Triceps are totally out of the question.  The boys just like to remind me that they are now surpassing me in physical strength.  That proved to be true the week we were moving boxes and furniture into our new home.  I have to say, it was nice to be able to call one of the boys over to pick up something that I was unable to, but overall, I held my own.
We all have different strengths.  The boys might have been the muscles when it came to ripping out old carpet and baseboards, but the girls were really good at packing boxes neatly and carefully.  I was better at planning out the logistics of when, where and how everything needed to be done, then made a hundred trips back and forth to unload and organize at the new place.  Besides physical strength, my husband did a fantastic job at putting in new floors and closets and doing repairs.  Everyone helped paint.  Our strengths might not be the same, but we are all strong in our own way that balances out the weakness in the others.
Whatever your strength is, it’s probably something you take pride in.  Maybe you are a great artist, or carpenter, or mechanic.  Maybe you are good with words, or with parenting, or really good at your job.  Whatever it is, that strength is a gift.
When people get in arguments, sometimes they are really good at finding what the other’s strength is and trying to make them feel like it isn’t their strength after all.  If they know it’s something the other person takes pride in, they know it’s a hot button to push.  They find the thing the other is most proud of and attempt to degrade them in that one area until the other person feels like they are weak.  Sometimes we hear it so often that we start to believe it.  Don’t.
I see this happen all the time in school.  You’re the smart kid who skips parties to study?  Or the kid who’s an extremely talented musician, but doesn’t play sports?  Oh, then you’re probably not cool enough to hang out with the crowd who does.  It happens the other way too.  You’re the sport star who spends lots of time in the gym?  Oh, then my grades are probably way better than yours.  It’s so not true.
I see it all the time in stressed marriages.  You take pride in the fact that you’re a really good parent and keep nutritious meals on the table?  Okay, so when we’re in an argument, I’m going to bring up the one time that a kid got hurt under your watch or the meals got burned.  You take pride in the fact that you have a job that you are really good at and love?  Okay, so when we’re in an argument, I’m going to bring up all the times you worked long hours and missed out on family time.  So unfair.
I see it happen in places of work.  You got a promotion and are a team leader now?  I wanted that job.  So I’ll talk behind your back and pick out everything I think you do wrong and get our co-workers to talk about you too.
If that isn’t enough, we are really good at laughing at other’s weaknesses too.  It happens everywhere, and it happens too much.  Why do we do this to each other?  Is it jealousy?  Just wanting to create a weak spot to win an argument?  Degrading others and putting down their strength does not make us strong.  In fact, it makes us weak.  In character, in reputation, and in spirit.  They may not have the same strengths we do, but rest assured that they have many strengths that we do not.
What would it look like if we recognized the strengths in others and complimented them instead?  The great musicians in the band are always playing at ball games. Maybe the ball players could support them at one of their concerts.  How different would the home atmosphere be if the spouse who comes home from work chose to say three nice things before they ever thought about pointing out something that didn’t get done?  Or if the spouse at home thanked the other for working long hours to support the family instead of getting angry about the (probably mandatory) overtime? What if you only talked to your co-workers about things that were complimentary?  Even about the one who got the promotion you wanted.  What if we used our strengths to balance out the weakness in the others?  It would change the whole dynamic and make school, home, and work a happier place to live life.
Sometimes we feel like we just don’t have any strength, physical or otherwise.  I encourage you to pray about it.  That God will strengthen you in your areas of weakness so that you can be a strong support to others as well.  Isaiah 41:10  “So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Have a blessed week, friends!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

© The People's Defender - All rights reserved