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If the Lord wills

This is part two of a series about Norma who was 76 years old when admitted to hospice for general debility. Norma is forward and feisty and she loves her Coke and ice cream, is adamant about keeping her toenails and fingernails painted, and proclaims, “I love being around people.” About four months after Norma’s enrollment in hospice her condition declined and she required 24-hour care and was not able to return to her daughter Essie’s home. You see, like many couples today, Essie and her husband both have to work just to keep their heads above water.

I called Essie a few days after Norma’s transfer to the nursing home and asked,” How did the move go?” and Essie replied, “Mom seems to be doing alright with it, but I’m not doing too good with it. When I was 14 I promised mom that I wouldn’t put her in a nursing home.”

I cringed when I heard those words, “I promised.” I admitted to Essie, “I’ve learned the hard way not to make promises. I’ll tell people, ‘I’ll do the best I can’, but I won’t promise. I’ve learned that I’m only human and I don’t know what the future holds. I’ve learned not to set myself up that way.” Essie replied, “I’ve already set myself up that way but my husband keeps telling me that I’m not Superwoman.”

A few days later I visited Norma at the nursing home and asked, “How has the move gone?” and she replied, “I’m adapting, I’m adjusting. To tell you the truth, I’m really doing a lot better than Essie is with it. She’s been crying everyday.” I explained that Essie told me about the promise she’d made and I asked Norma, “What would you say to that young 14- year old girl now?” Norma emphatically replied, “I’d tell her, you shouldn’t be making promises like that, that you don’t know if you’ll be able to keep.”

I suggested to Norma that instead of making promises we should all just say, “If the Lord wills” (James 4:13-16). Norma exclaimed, “That’s what my dad always said. He would say, ‘I’m not gonna promise, but if the Lord wills, we’ll…’, and it stuck in my mind. Dad was a minister and if you asked anybody they would tell you that dad was a wise old man.” I would agree. Norma and I concluded that when we presume upon tomorrow, we fail to appreciate the precious gift of today.

I’m reminded of Peter’s “promise” to Jesus after the Passover meal. (Matthew, Chapter 26). He promised that even if all the other disciples scattered and deserted Him, “I’ll never forsake you.” But Jesus knew better and He told Peter that before the cock crowed that he would deny him three times and Peter did. What amazes, awes, and comforts me is what Jesus said to Peter when he saw him the first time after He arose. He didn’t remind Peter of his naive promise. He didn’t brow beat him or rub his nose in his failure and He didn’t disqualify Peter. He simply asked Peter three times, “Do you love me?” And when Peter answered “yes“, Jesus graciously and mercifully exhorted him, “Then feed my sheep.” In other words, “Just get back in the game.”

When it’s all said and done the bottom line is whether or not the people in our lives knew we loved them. Can’t you imagine Jesus saying to Peter, “You shouldn’t be making promises like that; that you don’t know if you’ll be able to keep. You are only human. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.” (Matthew 26:41)

Come now you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to such and such a city, spend a year there, buy and sell, and make a profit, whereas you do not know what will happen tomorro. Instead you ought to say, If the Lord wills, we shall live and do this or that.” (James 4:13-16)

Loren Hardin is a social worker with Southern Ohio Medical Center – Hospice and can be reached by email at hardinl@somc.org or by phone at 740-356-2525.

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